Whoever is going to run the household and stay with the children, men or women, needs to do a great job, just like the one making the money, man or women, needs to do a great job. Many girls are not putting in the hard work to build a great career or business and therefore make little to no money but at same time are also poor performers at home. They often create drama, act jealous, give you silent treatment, are passive aggressive, dress up less and less, start gaining weight, expect you to give them massage but rarely scratch your back, don't work hard to make sure house & clothes are clean in time, shopping is done, quality meals are made often and children are happy.
I don't dig that, and have seen all too often girls trying to transfer some of these homemaker responsibilities to me, on top of paying for it all. This is a no go as it will cost me/us greatly in me starting to underperform in my job where competition is HIGH, leading to a downward spiral of financial misery.
I improve my partner's live greatly by doing my job well, making sure she does not have to be concerned about money whatsoever, and even can build financial security. Make sure we have a modern home that offers comfort and protection, support her when she is having a hard time, take her out, do beautiful trips. I'm not perfect, I sometimes fail, can be impatient and rude, not great in emotional support, and often work too much, but overall do a good job.
Equally, I expect my partner to also improve my life greatly by providing a warm home where I can relax and be productive instead of stress and cleanup. If not, better to separate, even in best interest of the children, as accepting parasitical exploitative behavior by your partner leads to a cold house, frustration, abuse and dysfunction.
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